Rape
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Many people, mainly women but sometimes men, are raped and sexually assaulted. Rape and sexual assault are under reported, although many more victims of sexual violence than every before are choosing to disclose and report their abuse to the police and other agencies. It is estimated that at least 1 in 4 women will be raped or sexually assaulted in her lifetime, with the most common perpetrator being a partner, former partner, or someone else known to the victim.
Rape and Sexual Assault
Rape is the penetration of the vagina, anus, and/or mouth by a penis, without the explicit consent of the person. Consent by coercion is not acceptable, so if you felt you had no option Rape is considered to be a very serious crime and carries a maximum life sentence if a perpetrator is convicted. Some people are sexually penetrated by an implement or object and this is considered to be equally as serious as rape and carries the same maximum sentence of life imprisonment if a perpetrator is convicted.
Sexual assault is any form of a sexual act, which is inflicted on someone without his or her explicit consent. It can involve forcing or coercing someone to witness or participate in any sexual acts, apart from penetration of the mouth with the penis, the penetration of anus or vagina (however slight) with any object, or the penis, which is classed as rape.
If someone does not consent to any kind of sexual activity then this is illegal. The law has changed and now says that if someone is drunk or under the influence of drugs that they are not capable of giving consent to any kind of sexual activity.
Child sexual abuse?
Child Abuse is any type of sexual assault on a child under the age of sixteen. When this assault comes from members of the family it is called incest. The type of assault can vary from unwanted kissing or touching to oral, vaginal or anal intercourse. Research suggests that chid sexual abuse is very common with 1 in 2 girls experiencing some form of sexual abuse before the age of 18 (from flashing to rape) , one third of these before the age of 12. The vast majority of children will be assaulted by people who are known to them, not strangers as many people often believe.
Where do rapes or sexual assaults happen?
When people are sexually assaulted there is a myth that they will be most likely to be raped by a stranger. Whilst stranger rape does of course happen, because most perpetrators are known to the victim the most likely place for a rape or sexual assault to occur is within the home of the victim or the perpetrator. The most serious sexual assaults are most likely to be committed by known men and less serious are most likely to be committed by strangers.
- Nearly three-quarters (74%) of incidents involving partners or ex partners occurred in the victim’s own home and a further 16 per cent occurred in the offender’s home.
- In some of these cases the perpetrator might be in the home of the victim without their permission (this often happens in domestic violence situations where the abuser continues to stalk and harass the victim). Attacks by ‘dates’ occur in a variety of locations, but are most likely to occur in the home of the perpetrator.
- The vast majority of women who are raped or sexually assaulted are raped by a partner, ex partner or a man known to them.
Women are only raped or sexually assaulted by strangers
The vast majority of women who are raped or sexually assaulted are attacked by men who are known to them, usually partners or ex-partners. The most serious sexual assaults are committed by known men, and the less serious often by strangers. However, of course stranger abuse can occur and does have a profound impact on anybody who experiences it. Most rapes occur within the home of the victim, the home of the abuser, or in a place where the person who is assaulted thought they would be safe.
If women get drunk or high on drugs they often cry rape because they can’t remember consenting to sex
Whilst it’s true that some women are raped after they have been drinking or taking drugs, this does not mean that they ‘cry rape’ because they can’t remember consenting to sex. It is now an offence to have sex with someone who is too drunk or incapacitated to give informed consent. It is down to a man to prove that the person he has had sex with was in a position to give informed consent, and forensic tests can show the amount of drugs or alcohol that was in the victim’s system at the time of the assault.
Only attractive or young women are raped or sexually assaulted
Anybody can be raped regardless of their age or what they look like.
Men can’t be raped
Men can be raped and sexually assaulted, and the vast majority of perpetrators are other men. Men who are raped need the same levels of support and understanding as women and girls who are raped.
Only sexually frustrated men rape
The vast majority of men who rape are in relationships with their victims, and those who aren’t are often in relationships with someone else. Being sexually frustrated is just an excuse to rape – may people live without sex and do not rape or sexually assault anybody. Men who rape do so because they can and because they think they will get away with it.
Women who dress provocatively are automatically putting themselves at risk (of sexual assault or rape)
Women have been raped or assaulted should be able to wear whatever they like, and the vast majority of women who are sexually assaulted are not dressed provocatively. Rapists do not care what a victim is wearing when they are assaulted, but may later use this as an excuse to somehow suggest that they just couldn’t help themselves, or she was giving off ‘signals’ that she was attracted to him. Many people find other people attractive sexually but they do not rape or sexually assault them.
Women who are on the streets late at night are asking for trouble.
Anybody should be able to walk the streets at any time of night or day and be safe from any kind of crime, including rape or sexual assault. This myth blames victims of rape and sexual assault instead of the men who rape.
Once a man is sexually excited he can’t stop until he has had sex.
Any man who is aroused will desire sex, but even if penetration has occurred if his sexual partner requests that he stops then he can and should do so. Many of us have been interrupted by others (how many of us have small children who often wake up at times) when we have been having sex and we and our partners have had to stop. Any man can stop at any time and should do so if his partner requests it or he feels she is unhappy or unwilling.
Women who flirt shouldn’t complain if they are then raped
It is part of human nature for us to banter and flirt, but this does not mean that we desire or should have to have sex. Sex should always be negotiated and should be safe and consensual. Even if someone kisses and fondles, or engages in any kind of other sexual activity, this does not mean that they want to have sex and they certainly don’t deserve to be raped. The onus is on men to demonstrate how they have negotiated sex and that they have their partner’s full consent.
A woman who has been out with a man and he has paid owes him sexual favours in return
Consenting to having a drink or dinner with someone does not mean that a woman consents to sex, regardless of who has paid. Sex should always be negotiated and should have full consent. Any pressure or coercion is unacceptable and may result in a rape charge. If a man chooses to pay for something then he must separate this from sexual activity.
A man is entitled to sex from his partner/wife
Any sexual act that does not have the full and informed consent of the other person is an offence. Just because you are in a relationship with someone, even if you are married, they still must negotiate consensual safe sex with you on each and every occasion. You always have the right to say no and your partner should always respect this.
Women say ‘no’ when they really mean ‘yes’
When women say no to sex they mean no. Unfortunately many men will not take no for an answer and will pressurise, coerce or force sex and the choice is taken away from women. If a woman says no, all men should accept this and women should feel that they have the right to say no without fear of reprisals.
Only men who can’t achieve consensual sex will rape
Men do not rape because women say no to them, they rape because they can and because they think they will get away with it. Many men who rape are in relationships with the women they abuse, or with other women.
Men sometimes visit sex workers in order not to rape
Men who use sex workers do so because they can and believe it is acceptable to exploit and abuse women. Sex workers are often raped and made to do things they don’t want to do. They are often assaulted physically by their clients and placed in dangerous and vulnerable situations. Many men who use sex workers are in relationships and are having sexual relations with their partners. Many men who use sex workers often rape other women, including their partners. There are no excuses for rape.
It is not as bad for a woman to be raped or sexually assaulted by someone she knows.
Any sexual assault is an appalling experience for anyone. Being raped by a stranger or someone that is known to you is a horrific experience. Just because you know someone, or have had consensual sex with them previously, does not make it any less so. When men rape someone they know it is a huge breach of their trust and exposes their victims to a whole range of risks and concerns. Rape is rape regardless of who is the perpetrator.
Rape and sexual assault affects different people in different ways, and there is no one right or wrong way for a victim of rape to feel or behave. Some survivors may appear very calm and describe the assault with little or no emotion. Other survivors may express feelings verbally or by shaking, crying, restlessness, or tenseness. Remember, if you, or someone you know has been raped or sexually assaulted, then you (or they) have just experienced a terrifying trauma. Any response to the assault is a normal response to this awful trauma.
Common reactions to being raped or sexually assaulted
Although each person is unique, there are some feelings and reactions that most sexual assault victims say that they experience at some stage after being assaulted. Some of these feelings and reactions are:
- Shock and disbelief
- Being afraid and fearful of the rapist
- Guilt and/or shame
- Feeling vulnerable
- Feeling numb
- Withdrawing from life
- Loss of control over their life
- Feeling embarrassed
- Anxiety, shaking, nightmares
- Concern for the rapist
- Wondering “Why me?”
- Feeling Angry
- Feeling Sad
- Problems eating and sleeping
Some survivors have other health problems too. Many will find themselves unable to return to school/college/work for some time, or go out of the house to do everyday things like shop or meet friends etc. Some will be frightened to return home, especially if the assault happened there.
Post-traumatic stress disorder
If you have been assaulted you may experience some or all of these feelings or symptoms. These may occur immediately, or there may be a delayed reaction weeks or months later. The feelings may be very intense at times and feelings of being out of control are normal. Sometimes the feelings seem to go away for a while and then come back again. Certain situations, such as seeing the abuser, or testifying in court, may intensify the symptoms or cause them to reoccur after a period during which you have been feeling better.
Some people have flashbacks and nightmares and these can be very frightening. Sometimes survivors say that they experience physical sensations that are connected to what happened to them. Some survivors experience eating problems, sleep disturbances, headaches, and stomach aches. They may find that it is very difficult to concentrate on routine activities. They may also experience loss of interest in sex or avoidance of sexual situations.
Fears about personal safety are an almost universal response to a sexual assault. Survivors may become fearful in situations and places where they were never frightened before. During a sexual assault most victims feel powerless and/or terrified of being killed or seriously harmed. Afterwards, they may continue to feel frightened and vulnerable for some considerable time.
Feelings of guilt and shame
Feelings of guilt and shame are common reactions following a sexual assault. Because of misconceptions about rape, some victims blame themselves, doubt their own judgment, or wonder if they were in some way responsible for the assault. Feelings of guilt and self-blame may be reinforced by the reactions of others, who, because of the myths about rape, may blame the victim or criticize his or her behaviour.
Survivors often also feel ashamed. Some victims describe feeling dirty, devalued, and humiliated as a result of a sexual assault. Feelings of shame are often related to the powerlessness and helplessness victims experience during a sexual assault. Shame may also be a reaction to being forced by the perpetrator to participate in the assault that has been perpetrated against them. The most important thing to know and remember is that whatever the impacts of what has happened to you, that that seeking help by telling someone is the first step to SAYING NO TO FEAR.
When someone is raped by a partner or former partner this is nearly always in the context of a violent and abusive relationship, commonly called domestic violence. It is very important that a victim of abuse and their friends and family etc all understand these risks, they consider them and talk about them and seek support so that we can all work together to manage them and try and increase options for safety and survival.
Who is at risk?
Those at risk when sexual violence occurs in a domestic violence situation include:
- Victims – are at risk in a range of ways from their abuser and their behaviour. Or may be at risk from the use of negative coping strategies.
- Children – are at risk from witnessing, overhearing all types of violence and abuse, including physical and sexual violence, or being directly targeted and abused themselves. They are also at risk of neglect or the repercussions of trying to cope themselves with violence and abuse.
- Pets – abusers will often target pets to punish victims and children.
- Family/friends/colleagues/neighbours – may be at risk if they try and intervene.
- Perpetrators – if someone being abused feels that they have no choice but to defend themselves then they may get injured or die as a result.
- Professionals – may find themselves at risk if they intervene and the perpetrator targets them directly.
Sefton Risk Assessment Tool
In Sefton we use a domestic violence risk assessment tool to try and find out how at risk someone is when they are being abused, including the experience of sexual violence. The key risks of harm and homicide for victims of domestic violence are:
Separation, or considering separation
We know that the riskiest times for victims of domestic violence are when they seek help with a view to leaving, when they tell their partner they want to separate, when they separate or after they have ended a relationship. Trying to end a relationship means that the abuser will lose their power and control, and these are the times that victims and their children are most likely to die. It is vitally important that victims don’t tell their abuser that they want to separate, and that support and help is provided to try and manage the risks before, during and after separation.
Perpetrator has a criminal record?
Some victims are also very intimidated by the fact that their partner/ex partner has a criminal record, and whilst most perpetrators are not violent in other contexts we know that where they have a criminal record, particularly for violence, or drug or alcohol related offences, they are less likely to be compliant with any legal interventions, and more likely to use extreme violence. They are also more likely to know people who they could ask to perpetrate violence and abuse also. Also very relevant is whether the perpetrator has a history of violence against previous partners, or family members. However, just because an abuser doesn’t have a criminal record this doesn’t mean that they won’t use extreme violence so please do not assume that this means that the victim is safe. Perpetrators of honour based violence often have no other recorded criminal record.
Injuries
If injuries have occurred previously to the victim, or to another previous partner, then we know that this will significantly increase the risk posed by the perpetrator. Violence and abuse escalates over time and becomes more severe and if the victim has already sustained injuries then they are likely to go on to experience them again, and the next time they could be even more severe. Try and get a picture of the physical incidents that have taken place, sometimes a victim finds it very difficult to recall, but if you ask about the first time, the last time and the worst time they were physically assaulted then this will begin to enable the victim to disclose and consider their position and the danger they are in. Try to also work out with the victim if the incidents are escalating and getting more severe. Ask also about physical violence to others, including children and pets, as this will enable you to build up a picture of exactly what is happening in the household. Physical violence includes a range of behaviours an example of which can be viewed by going to the domestic violence page of the Say No To Fear website.
Weapons or access to weapons
If the abuser has access to weapons, or is prepared to use weapons of any kind then injuries are likely to be more severe and the victim are more likely to be killed or seriously injured. Consider whether a perpetrator will have access to weapons via their job, or because of a hobby etc. Remember though that all of us do have access to weapons including kitchen knives, household objects, so its important to work with the victim to get them to consider this as they safety plan.
Threats to kill
A victim will be an expert on their abuser, they know what has happened to them and if a victim believes that their perpetrator could seriously harm or kill them, or someone else, then they should always share this information and be taken seriously. But remember sometimes it is often human nature to play down the seriousness of abuse and to think that whilst your abuser is capable of some very dangerous behaviour, they may not be capable of killing someone. Threats to kill should always be taken seriously as we know many abusers tell somebody before hand that they are prepared to take this course of action before they do it. Please specify whether the perpetrator has threatened to hurt or kill themselves, service user, children, previous intimate partner, or anybody else.
Jealous/obsessive behaviour/controlling behaviour/stalking/ harassment
We know from homicide reviews that abusers who are excessively jealous, have obsessive or controlling behaviour and/or stalk or harass their victims often go on to cause serious harm and kill. This behaviour can include being 'policed at home' or being told what to wear, being followed, abusive phone calls or texts, checking on whereabouts etc. Controlling, harassment and stalking behaviour, is part of emotional and psychological abuse, and is used by the perpetrator to isolate and control their victim. Please do not underestimate how serious this behaviour is and ask the victim to both report this behaviour to the police, and also keep a keep a diary of this behaviour, and any other evidence (notes, cards, text messages, call logs, voice mails, contacts to social networking sites, to friends and relatives etc) and share it with any professionals who are supporting them.
Violence and abuse from others on behalf of the perpetrator
We know that some perpetrators will involve other people in the abuse of their partner or ex partner and this can significantly increase the risk of serious injury or harm. For example it could be that where the victim has been forced to marry that the perpetrator involves other family members in the abuse.
The perpetrator has : Alcohol misuse issues , Drug misuse issues, Mental Health Issues, and/or is on a Probation or community based perpetrator programme to try and address their violence and abuse
Whilst drinking alcohol or taking drugs, or having mental health problems does not cause violence and abuse we know that they can all increase the risks. More extreme injuries can occur and this can lead to serious injury or death. For the victim this can also mean that their level of isolation is increased as they may believe that agencies will not understand them and will judge them, or merely blame the perpetrator’s behaviour on these other issues. They may equally be frightened that by exposing these issues this could get their partner/ex partner into trouble with the Police, or Children’s Services may wish to remove her children.
Perpetrator programmes are run by the Probation Service and are court mandated, and sometimes by other agencies on a voluntary attendance basis, and are designed to challenge men about their behaviour in an attempt to change them. In some cases being challenged can cause perpetrators to become more violent and abusive so its very important that when an abuser is attending a programme that support is provided to the person he has abused in order to reduce the risks.
The victim has: Alcohol misuse issues, Drug misuse issues, Mental Health Issues, a history of offending behaviour.
These may have been present either prior to the violence and abuse or may be as a result of it. These may very well have very negative impacts on the life of a victim and their children, and its important that the risks are not underestimated but that the victim is offered understanding and support. All of these may mean someone feels depressed, anxious, and/or put themselves, or someone else, at further risk of harm. A victim may be very worried about telling someone about these issues because of being judged, not believed, perpetrator’s behaviour being excused, and/or her children being removed.
Victim has financial problems or is financially dependent on the perpetrator
We know that where a victim of domestic violence has financial problems, or is dependent on the perpetrator, then they may feel that they are not in a position to leave, may be prevented from leaving or seeking help, and may feel that they have no choice but to return to a difficult situation. Being financially dependent on their partner means that they may have no earnings or their earnings might be taken away from them, or they cannot access benefits in their own right. Having financial problems and/or being financially dependent can significantly increase the risk of serious harm or death.
Perpetrator has financial problems
This does not cause violence and abuse but if he is in difficult financial circumstances then a perpetrator may be less likely to think rationally about killing a victim. They may feel that they have nothing left to lose. The perpetrator may also use their own financial issues as a way of further controlling their victim, and this may mean that they persuade the victim to support them financially or take on debts in their name to protect the perpetrator.
Pregnancy or having a child/ren 18 months old or under
When someone is pregnant, or has a small baby, we know they are at more risk of violence and abuse as the abuser now feels that she is unable to escape, and is more emotionally and financially tied to him. Where violence and abuse is already present it often increases with severity and frequency during pregnancy and whilst children are very small. We also know that having small children makes it more difficult to leave or seek help, and that small children cannot run away or tell anybody they are at risk of violence so they are more likely to be seriously injured or die.
Harm to children by perpetrator
Where the perpetrator is harming children, or threatening to harm children we know that this will increase the risk for both them and their mother, and in these circumstances they are all at risk of serious harm or death. In addition living with violence and abuse dramatically increases the risk of children getting caught in the cross fire, being targeted themselves, and being forced to witness or over hear violence and abuse.
Conflict over children
We know from homicide reviews that women and children are more likely to die if there are any issues connected to the children, where they live, who they live with, the fact that their father can no longer be with them full time, or can only see them at contact times. The perpetrator may well use contact with the children to get access to their mother, and abusive incidents often occur during these times. The perpetrator may also abduct the children removing them from the mother’s care. In addition the ultimate way to punish a woman is to remove her children from her care either temporarily (refusal to return them) or permanently (by killing the children) and contact should never be recommended unless the safety of women and their children can be secured.
Perpetrator living with non-biological children
We know from homicide reviews that where abusive men live with children who are not biologically their children (step children etc) that they are more likely to cause serious harm to/or kill the child’s mother, as well as the child/ren themselves.
Perpetrator abuses, or threatens to abuse pets
We know that perpetrators of domestic violence often target pets. Studies of men who go onto kill women and children show that these men often had a long history of abusing pets. Where the perpetrator has/does behave in this way then this should be viewed as a serious risk.
Strangulation, Choking, Drowning, Suffocation, Restriction of breathing
Strangulation, choking, drowning, suffocation, or preventing someone from breathing in any other way, is the most common form of female homicide. Even where women die as a result of some other kind of behaviour we know that strangulation has often been used previously to control and abuse them. We also know that abusers may also target children in this way and this should always be taken extremely seriously. There can be serious health implications as a result of strangulation or any other restriction of breathing. If this has happened to you then please look at our information for victims of strangulation. If you are a professional working with someone who has been a victim of strangulation then please look at our information for advocates tool.
Sexual violence and abuse
We know that where perpetrators are prepared to use sexual violence and abuse that they are more likely to kill. Sexual violence is often accompanied by physical violence and this can lead to serious injury or death. They have no respect for their victim, and are prepared to go to extreme and dangerous lengths to control her. Sexual violence is often very hard for victims to talk about and disclose and this can put them more at risk. For definitions of, and information about sexual violence and abuse please visit the domestic violence and/or rape and sexual assault page of the Say No To Fear website.
Fighting back or retaliation by the victim
It is very rare that somebody is abused and never tries to stand up for themselves, sometimes verbally to begin with and when this doesn’t work they may try to defend themselves physically. For women abused by a male perpetrator it is very rare that they will not be more seriously injured, or they will find themselves having to make sure that there will be n o comebacks by taking action that may well result in serious injuries for their perpetrator. This can mean that some professionals get confused and blame the victim for the abuse. If there is any confusion about who is the primary aggressor then please use the primary aggressor tool on the Say No To Fear website.
Use of social networking and instant messaging sites
Where a victim uses social networking and/or instant messaging sites then these can be used by a perpetrator to monitor and track her movements and behaviour, and considerably increase the risks of serious harm. Information on social networking sites can also be used by defence teams to prevent victims being taken seriously in court.
Isolation
Isolation is a tactic used by domestic violence perpetrators to prevent their victims from seeking help or leaving. The more isolated a victim is the more likely their abuser is to be able to increase the level of violence and abuse and kill them. Victims might be isolated from family and friends and be prevented from developing any social or support networks. Victims of honour based violence often disclose extreme levels of isolation. Victims may also become more desperate, unable to leave the relationship, and this can often have an impact on the victim’s mental health, and they may feel they have no choice but to take their own life just to try and escape from the awful situation they find themselves in.
Personal, diversity or cultural issues
We know that abusers will use these issues to further abuse someone. We also know that a victim of abuse may be less likely to be able to come forward if she is already experiencing oppression or fears discrimination.
Forced or coerced marriage
We know that some people, particularly women are put under extreme pressure to agree to a marriage that they do not want. Often violence and abuse is used to ensure that these women are compliant and continue to be so. Families and other members of the community may use extreme levels of violence and abuse to punish a woman, this can resulting serious injury or death. Women subject to forced or coerced marriages are more likely to be abused after marriage by both their husbands, and often other family members.
Honour based family and community codes of conduct
If victim behaves in a way that is seen to bring shame or dishonour to their family, or members of their community, then extreme violence is often used to control or punish them. This can lead to serious injury or death.
Victim has suicidal thoughts or behaviour
Sometimes the impact of abuse means that its victims can see know way out and feel that they have no choice but to take their own lives in order to be free. It is important to know whether a victim has ever contemplated taking their own life or attempted suicide as this obviously can seriously impact on the level of risk.
Perpetrator has suicidal thoughts of behaviour
Where abusers threaten suicide they often do this to increase the levels of control on their victims, and make them feel responsible for their emotional and physical well being. This can mean that a woman may feel unable to leave and have to stay or return to a dangerous relationship. Most male perpetrators who commit suicide in these circumstances do not just kill themselves, they often kill the victim and/or her children. If an abuser has no respect for their own life, then they often have no respect for anybody else – they have nothing to lose by killing others.
On going criminal civil and family court proceedings
We know that where there are any on-going criminal, civil or family court issues that this can seriously challenge abusers and may lead to an increase in risk levels . If an abuser is not compliant with these orders, or has previously not been compliant, then they have no respect for the law we also know that they are more likely to continue to use violence and abuse. This is not a reason not to take these types of actions but means that you will need high levels of support to do so, and agencies will be able to work with the victim to try and prevent the risks increasing.
Destroying property or criminal damage
We know that abusers will often destroy property, or threaten to destroy property belonging to their victims, or family and friends. This behaviour can lead to injury or serious harm, or can prevent victims from taking other actions to try and make themselves safe.
Perpetrator significantly older than victim
We know from homicide reviews that some abusers target younger victims, because they believe that this will ensure they are more compliant and give them more control. Where the victim was in their teens when the relationship started, and the victim is considerably older than they are they will have an increased level of power and control and that this is likely to lead to increased risks, serious injuries and/or death.
Recent downturn in the abuser's life (lost job, home, left the home, death of family member, no family/friends etc)
Where things are going badly in an abuser’s life then we know that they may well believe that they have little left to lose and may take extreme action against victims and their children. This can lead to serious injuries, and even death in extreme circumstances.
Perpetrator has a history of lighting fires/arson, or threatens to use arson
Fire kills rapidly and any fire related risks should always be taken very seriously.
Fear of further violence or injury
If the victim believes that the perpetrator if likely to further abuse them then this should always be seen as a significant risk factor. It is important to understand and establish exactly what the victim believes the perpetrator, or others acting on their behalf, may do and to whom. However, whilst in most cases the victim is best placed to tell us as professionals exactly what the perpetrator is capable of, sometimes they are in denial and minimise the extent of the abuse they are experiencing.
What is the pattern, frequency and severity of abuse
In most cases abuse will increase in severity and frequency and this leads to more serious injury and death. Plotting the pattern of the abuse is vital to assess the levels of risks posed and also to help the victim understand the seriousness of their situation.
Victim minimising serious of their situation
It is human nature to think the best of people. In addition the affects of abuse often mean that victims will minimize and use denial as coping strategies. Knowing about the risks and taking them seriously will increase options for safety and survival. Seeking help is crucial and thinking the unthinkable is very important. Where a victim appears to be underestimating the levels of risk posed this poses them at increased risk of danger and harm.
If there are 3 or more police callouts in the last 12 months
We know in most instances that women do not report abuse to the police. Where the police are called out by women or their children then this means that they are scared that they can no longer manage their abuser’s behaviour and they need someone to make the violence stop. Where neighbours or family and friends call the police this is often because there is a long history of this behaviour and they are concerned for the safety of the victim and/or her children. Homicide reviews demonstrate that the police had often been to the address on a number of occasions before death occurred.
Being assaulted by a stranger or acquaintance is just as serious as being assaulted by a partner, or former partner but the associated risks after the assault are slightly different. So in Sefton we have a sexual violence risk assessment tool specifically to help to identify and manage these risks. If you, or some you know, has been raped by a stranger, or acquaintance (someone that you or they have not been in an intimate relationship with) then it is important to understand the risks associated with the assault so that the options for safety and survival can be increased. These risks are:
More than one perpetrator
More than one perpetrator increases the risk particularly if the perpetrators know where the victim lives, works or goes. There is also more risk of serious injury and harm.
Perpetrator known to the victim/survivor
If the perpetrator/s are known to their victim then they will be more likely to be able to further assault their victim.
Perpetrator is aware of where victim/survivor lives/ works/studies or their movements etc
This risk simply links to opportunity for further assault and intimidation and harassment – even if the perpetrator was a stranger if they have stalked their victim, or followed them, and then this significantly increases the risk of serious harm or death.
Perpetrator has a criminal record
A survivor of rape or sexual assault in this context may not know the identity of the perpetrator, but if and when this is established then it is important to consider whether they have a history of violence, particularly sexual violence against other victims. We also know that many perpetrators are not violent in other contexts we know that where they have a criminal record, particularly for violence, or drug or alcohol related offences, they are less likely to be compliant with any legal interventions, and more likely to use extreme violence. However, just because your abuser doesn’t have a criminal record this doesn’t mean that they won’t use extreme violence so please don not assume that this means you are safe.
Non compliance with protective orders or bail conditions
If the perpetrator is non-compliant with any protective measures then this will significantly increase the risk to any victim and should always be taken seriously.
Survivor has experienced sexual violence on more than one occasion from this perpetrator/s
If the victim has experienced sexual violence previously from the same perpetrator then this can have even more devastating affects on the victim. Often victims in this position may feel unable to cope with multiple traumas and can in some cases self harm or even attempt or commit suicide. Never be alone with what has happened to you, it’s not your fault, reduce this risk by seeking help from support agencies as soon as possible.
Survivor has experienced domestic and/or sexual violence previously from any other perpetrator as an adult or child
Where someone has multiple experiences of violence and abuse this has devastating effects on them, and can lead to the feeling that it is their fault that they have been repeatedly victimised. Where they are not provided with support, or do not feel able to disclose, or are not believed, then these impacts are further compounded and sometimes result in the survivor feeling unable to cope and even using drugs and alcohol to try and deal with what has happened to them. Often victims in this position may feel unable to cope with multiple traumas and can in some cases self harm or even attempt or commit suicide. Never be alone with what has happened to you, it’s not your fault, reduce this risk by seeking help from support agencies as soon as possible.
Survivor/victim is involved in the sex industry
Being involved in the sex industry exposes anybody to a greater level of vulnerability to sexual violence, and abuse. It becomes very difficult for a victim/survivor to manage these risks and escape from those who may harm them. They may also have drug and alcohol misuse issues, and often have histories of previous abuse.
Use of weapons
If the abuser has access to weapons, or is prepared to use weapons of any kind then injuries are likely to be more severe and the victim/survivor are more likely to be killed or seriously injured. It is important to consider whether a perpetrator will have access to weapons via their job, or because of a hobby etc. Remember though that all of us do have access to weapons including kitchen knives, household objects, so it’s important to work with the victim/survivor to get them to consider this as they safety plan
Threats to kill
A victim/survivor will be an expert on their abuser, they know what has happened to them and if a victim/survivor believes that their perpetrator could seriously harm or kill them, or someone else, then they should always share this information and be taken seriously. But remember sometimes it is often human nature to play down the seriousness of abuse and to think that whilst your abuser is capable of some very dangerous behaviour, they may not be capable of killing someone. Threats to kill should always be taken seriously as we know many abusers tell somebody before hand that they are prepared to take this course of action before they do it. The perpetrator may have threatened to hurt or kill the victim/survivor, their children, family members or anybody else important to them. Threats of serious violence, and to kill, can effectively immobilise a victim and prevent the from recovering from their trauma.
Arson or threat of arson
If the perpetrator has got a history of lighting fires/arson, or threatened to use fire to abuse the victim or her children/family/friends then this should be taken very seriously as fire kills rapidly or can cause serious life limiting injuries.
Stalking and harassment
We know from homicide reviews that abusers who stalk and harass their victims often go on to cause serious harm and kill. It means that they may know where a victim lives, works and can find ways to access them very easily. Harassment and stalking behaviour, is part of emotional and psychological abuse, and is used by the perpetrator to isolate and control their victim. Please do not underestimate how serious this behaviour is and report this behaviour to the police, and also keep a keep a diary of this behaviour, and any other evidence (notes, cards, text messages, call logs, voice mails, contacts to social networking sites, to friends and relatives etc) and share it with any professionals who are supporting them.
Perpetrator has drug, alcohol and/or mental health misuse issues
Whilst drinking alcohol or taking drugs, or having mental health problems does not cause violence and abuse we know that they can all increase the risks. More extreme injuries can occur and this can lead to serious injury or death if the perpetrator decides to further target the victim/survivor. For the victim this can also mean that their level of isolation is increased as they may believe that agencies will not understand them and will judge them, or merely blame the perpetrator’s behaviour on these other issues.
Strangulation, choking, suffocating, drowning or otherwise restricting breathing
Strangulation, or preventing someone from breathing in any other way, is the most common form of female homicide. Even where women die as a result of some other kind of behaviour we know that strangulation has often been used previously to control and abuse them. We also know that abusers may also target children in this way and this should always be taken extremely seriously. There can be serious health implications as a result of strangulation or any other restriction of breathing. If this has happened to you then please look at our information for victims of strangulation. If you are a professional working with someone who has been a victim of strangulation then please look at our information for advocates tool.
Fear of further injury of violence
If the victim believes that the perpetrator if likely to further abuse them then this should always be seen as a significant risk factor. It is important to understand and establish exactly what the victim believes the perpetrator, or others acting on their behalf, may do and to whom. However, whilst in most cases the victim is best placed to tell us as professionals exactly what the perpetrator is capable of, sometimes they are in denial and minimise the extent of the abuse they are experiencing.
Isolation
Isolation is a tactic used by sexual violence perpetrators to prevent their victims from seeking help and disclosing. The more isolated a victim is the more likely their abuser is to be able to increase the level of violence and abuse, prevent them from telling someone, and also seriously harming or killing them. Victims might be isolated from family and friends and may have very little access to social or support networks that could assist them to overcome the trauma of rape or sexual assault. Where a victim has very little support or help then they will often struggle to make sense of what has happened to them and will feel isolated and alone. Victims may also become more desperate and feel they have no choice but to take their own life just to try and escape from the awful situation they find themselves in. It is important that anybody who has been raped or sexually assaulted seeks help from specialist agencies as soon as they can.
Personal, cultural or diversity issues
We know that abusers will use these issues during rape or sexual assault, and may use them to further abuse someone. We know that a victim of abuse may be less likely to be able to come forward if she is already experiencing oppression or fears discrimination.
Victim has alcohol/ drug misuse, or mental health problems
These may have been present either prior to the assault or may be as a result of the assault, or made worse because of the assault. All of these may mean someone feels depressed, anxious, and/or put themselves at further risk of harm.
Victim has suicidal thoughts or tendencies
The impact of rape and sexual assault may leave some victims feeling desperate. They will need understanding and support but this should always be viewed as a significant risk factor. Sometimes the impact of abuse means that its victims can see know way out and feel that they have no choice but to take their own lives in order to be free. It is important to know whether a victim has ever contemplated taking their own life or attempted suicide as this obviously can seriously impact on the level of risk.
Social networking and instant messaging sites
Where a victim uses social networking and/or instant messaging sites then these can be used by a perpetrator to monitor and track her movements and behaviour, and considerably increase the risks of serious harm. Information on social networking sites can also be used by defence teams to prevent victims being taken seriously in court.
Injuries
Injuries can have long lasting affects on anybody who has been raped or sexually assaulted, and if there is any further risk of assault then even worse injuries may occur.
Victim minimising serious of their situation
The affects of rape and sexual violence and abuse often mean that victims will minimize and use denial as coping strategies. Sometimes victims either don’t understand the risks they are exposed to, or may try to shut off from the risks as a way of trying to move on with their life. Not understanding the risks can significantly impact upon their ability to safety plan. It is really important that anybody who is assaulted is offered support and help to understand all of the risks they may face to try and reduce the risks. Knowing about the risks and taking them seriously will increase options for safety and survival. Seeking help is crucial and thinking the unthinkable is very important. Where a victim appears to be underestimating the levels of risk posed this poses them at increased risk of danger and harm.
Number of police callouts in last 12 months
Where there are 3 or more callouts for any reason to the person who has been assaulted in 12 months this increases the level of risk to them. Feeling that you have been a repeat victim of crime, even if the offences and perpetrators are different will significantly increase the risks to any victim of sexual violence.
When you are raped or sexually assaulted the most important thing for you to do is to try and make yourself as safe as possible, away from the person who has assaulted you and try to get some help. In an emergency always dial 999 and ask for the police to help you. Getting to safety and being able to tell someone who can help you is very important. There are some other things that are important for you to do if you can and it doesn’t put you in any danger:
- Try to keep warm and drink fluids like water, coffee, or tea, but avoid alcohol if you can.
- Be aware that you may well be in shock and it is important that you take care as far as possible of your immediate needs, and know that what has happened is not your fault, and that there are people who can help you.
- If you think your drink was spiked in any way then it is useful to take a sample of your urine and put it in a clean, sealed container – if possible in a fridge, and this means it could be tested later
- If you can keep any evidence of what happened: clothing, bedclothes, glass or cup etc. These might be very useful later if you decide you want to report what has happened to you to the police and they can forensically test them and this may help them to take action against the person who assaulted you.
- If you can keep any evidence of what happened: clothing, bedclothes, glass or cup etc. These might be very useful later if you decide you want to report what has happened to you to the police and they can forensically test them and this may help them to take action against the person who assaulted you.
- Remember that whatever happens you are likely to be feeling very confused, upset, and maybe even angry, and its important to try and talk to someone and tell them what has happened to you. Sometimes telling the police or another agency might not be the first thing that you want to do, and a friend or relative, anybody you feel you can trust, maybe the best thing for you. But if you can’t speak to someone you know and trust you can contact RASA, the SARC, the VVAT and/or the police. Most people find it best to do both – contacting a support service, and a trusted friend or relative is often the best option in both the short and longer term.
Key Support Services
- Rape And Sexual Assault Centre for women in Merseyside : 0151 666 1392
Outside phone line hours you can email on info@rasamerseyside.org - Merseyside Safe Place: Sexual Assault Referral Centre: 0151 295 3550
- Merseyside Police: In an emergency please dial 999, in a non emergency contact the Unity Team on 0151 777 1382
- VVAT (Vulnerable Victims Advocacy Team) on 0151 934 5142
Medical help and advice
If you have recently been raped or sexually assaulted then you want some medical advice on a range of issues such as any injuries you may have, or you might be worried about sexually transmitted diseases or pregnancy. If you are injured then going to your local Accident and Emergency department, or your GP, as soon as possible is important.
Merseyside Safe Place SARC (Sexual Assault Referral Centre)
Whatever happens when you access any help, including medical, it is important to tell someone confidentially what has happened to you and ask them to contact the Sexual Assault Referral Centre (SARC). Alternatively you can self refer to the SARC if you prefer to do so. The SARC support worker and a forensic examiner will come to A&E if necessary, or will arrange to meet you at the SARC if you are fit and able to travel. It is always best if you can to come to the SARC and be examined by a trained forensic examiner, as this is a doctor who is experienced in examining people who have been raped, and will also be able to provide proper medical evidence should your case ever proceed to a trial.
If the assault happened some time ago you may decide you don’t want to access the SARC, but you can still contact RASA who offer telephone support and face to face counselling. You may of course choose to seek support from both agencies if you feel that this is what you need.
At the SARC there are a wide range of services that you can access including crisis and emotional support, forensic testing, screening for sexually transmitted infections, and referrals for advocacy and counselling, etc. Wherever you choose to go it is important to know that you can choose to have a friend, relative, anybody that you trust with you – you do not have to do this on your own. If you are not sure if this is what you want to do then you can contact RASA or the VVAT and they can offer you support and advice.
Once you get to the SARC you will be met by a specially trained Crisis intervention worker who will explain all of your options and arrange for a forensic medical examiner to examine you if you decide this is what you want. They will also provide you with emotional support and arrange for access to ongoing support with the VVAT afterwards. At this stage you may or may not want to report the assault you have experienced to the police, but it is important that you know that you can change your mind at any time and report the rape or sexual assault.
If you have not already sought medical help there may be lots of questions that you would like answers to before you do so. For example you may be concerned about what tests are really appropriate, or what will appear on your medical records if you go to your G.P/ A&E/ the SARC, and what would be the implications of some of the possible tests, particularly tests for Sexually Transmitted Diseases. If you attend the SARC a Crisis Worker will explain all of the different tests and options and will ensure that you are enabled and empowered to make the right choices for you.
Reporting rape and sexual assault to the Police
If you decide to report the assault to the police then this will be taken seriously and investigated. The police now have specialist police officers and Crown Prosecutors who are based together within the Unity Team, as well as specialist police officers within the Family Crimes Investigation Unit (FCIU), that deal with all rape victims to ensure that the victim gets the best possible response from the Criminal Justice System, depending on their individual circumstances. If you have not already been to the SARC the police will offer to refer anyone who has been recently raped or
If it is not safe for you to return home they will assist you to find a safe place to stay and they will refer you to the VVAT (Vulnerable Victims’ Advocacy Team) in Sefton. An advocate will contact you within 24 hours of the referral being made to them, or the next working day, and they will arrange to meet with you as soon as possible and ensure that you are provided with practical advice, emotional support and all of you safety needs are taken care of for as long as is necessary. The VVAT will liaise with the investigating officer on your behalf, and will work very closely with them. They will also work very closely with any other agencies that you need to access to ensure that you get the best possible services to support you. They can also ensure that if your case is going to court that all of your needs are taken care of and they can also attend court with this is what you would like to happen. They will also assist you to access longer term counselling support through RASA.
The sexual assault I experienced happened some time ago.
Sometimes when someone is raped they find it hard to tell people straight away, and only tell much later on. However hard it is telling someone will help you to not be alone with this awful trauma and you will be helped to access support services who can really help you, and in time you my find that you are able to move on from what has happened to you.
Do not feel ashamed, this is not your fault, the only person or people responsible are those who assaulted you. If the assault happened a while ago it may not be relevant to go to a doctor, unless you still have health problems associated with the sexual assault. For example you may feel depressed, or anxious, or have been drinking or taking drugs to try and cope with what has happened to you. If you have any concerns or health needs then please visit a trusted health professional or your GP. They will help you in confidence and will help you to think about your options. However, you can take your time to think this through – you need to feel in control, and that you are doing what’s best for you when you are ready. But please take care of yourself because you and your health needs are very important.
At any time you can contact RASA and they will provide you with advice, support and counselling. You can also contact the Vulnerable Victims Advocacy Team.
However long ago a rape happened you can still report the assault to the police. It is important to remember though that there may well be less evidence as time goes on, and it may well be more difficult to gather enough evidence to try and take a case to court. But the police and the CPS will always try to build a case and will provide you with all the help that you can to try and help you to get justice.
I know someone who has been raped or sexually assaulted
If a friend or relative, or someone you are working with, tells you they have been raped or sexually assaulted then it’s important to treat them sensitively and believe them, and offer to assist them to access support services. Remember that often people do not tell about rape at the time it happens, and it may well be that the person has been raped some time ago. Often people are threatened that if they tell bad things could happen to them or loved one, so whatever the reasons never ask them why they have chosen to tell now. The fact that they have trusted you enough to disclose to you should be viewed as a great privilege and the person should be treated with great sensitively and respect.
The important thing is that the person feels supported, that all of their options are explained to and that they feel in control of what happens next. Never pressure them into doing, or talking about things they are not ready to face. When they are ready they will speak to someone, providing they feel that the person is ready and able to listen to them.
Women, and men, who are sexually assaulted are often afraid of how other people will react to what has happened to them, they may fear not being believed, embarrassment, having their experiences minimised or trivialised, even fear rejection. They will also have their own questions about what has happened to them, and has happened to them since the assault, particularly if this was a long time ago.
Confronting the perpetrator, phoning the police, or making appointments with services ‘on their behalf' may make them feel much worse, and you can best help by listening to the person and asking or checking out what they want to happen. Do not tell anyone what you believe they ought to do, instead always help them explore their options, and understand they need to feel in control as all of the control has been taken away from them by what has happened to them when they have been assaulted. However, it is important to consider the person’s safety. It is important to know whether the person who assaulted them poses any risk now, is it safe for the person to return home, or do they need a place of safety. They can contact one of the support agencies on this page, or access services through our directory of services or ask you to do so on their behalf.
I have been sexually assaulted and the perpetrator knows where I live
If you need extra security measures to your home because you are frightened that the person who assaulted and hurt you knows where you live then Sefton Council’s Sanctuary Scheme provides additional safety and security measures to enable any victim of violence and abuse (including rape and sexual assault) to either remain in the own home with a view to providing a greater degree of safety and a reduction of risk, or to relocate and prevent further violence and abuse. The Sanctuary Scheme is not a means tested service and you can self refer, or an agency that is working with you can refer you if you prefer. Extra security measures can include stronger locks, film for windows, alarms, fire alarms etc. To find out more about the Sanctuary Scheme visit our Sanctuary Scheme page on this site.
The Sanctuary Scheme provides additional safety and security measures to enable any victim of violence and abuse to either remain in the own home with a greater degree of safety and a reduction of risk, or to relocate and prevent further violence and abuse. The Sanctuary Scheme is not a means tested service and you can self refer or an agency that is working with you can refer you if you prefer. Extra security measures can include stronger locks, film for windows, alarms, fire alarms etc.
How do I access Sanctuary?
Providing you live, or will live in Sefton if you are being rehoused, and you have experienced domestic or sexual violence, and fear further violence and fear having to move to escape, you can access the Sanctuary Scheme.
The Sanctuary scheme can be accessed by contacting the Vulnerable Victim’s Advocates Team by completing the referral form at our Report Violence and Abuse page or telephoning the VVAT on 0151 934 5142.
What happens next?
The VVAT will then arrange for someone to come and see you and carry out a needs and risk assessment They will then discuss with you the identified risks and whether the Sanctuary Scheme can help you and minimise the risks. They will also discuss all all of your other needs and how these can be met, and safety plan with you. If at this stage the risks are too high then the advocate who visits you will discuss other options, including perhaps moving into safe temporary accommodation, or being rehoused.
If the risks can be managed, and Sanctuary could make you safer, then the advocate will then organise for a property survey to be conducted. The Community Safety Team, Merseyside Police and Merseyside Fire and Rescue service will conduct this survey. If they judge that your property can be made safer they will then agree to put in place the additional safety and security that is necessary to try and reduce the risks and keep you safer.
Then with your permission, and the permission of your landlord if you do not own your own property, they will arrange for the work to be carried out. The advocate will support you throughout this process and will work with you for at least 12 months after the installation of Sanctuary. Sanctuary and the support it brings can help you SAY NO TO FEAR
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